11.1.13 Meeting Minutes

• Trans issues at single sex colleges
• Discussion of families – do we feel accepted?
• the need to feel accepted and feel loved for who we are, versus being scared
• we don’t feel SEEN
• parents aren’t there for us
• forcing us to do things (dressing in certain ways)
• “you can try with my little brothers, but your time with me is up...those first few years counted, and you weren’t there”
• “I was the test run child”
• The right to self-identify (‘who has the right to say they are a lesbian?’)
  
  

  by not honoring that fluidity, you are ostracizing those who made you feel marginalized

• The similarities between identity signifiers…gender and sexuality and race
• Identity politics!
• Performativity – Judith Butler
• Gender Trouble
• Differences between sex (cis, what you were born), sexuality (who you are attracted to), and gender (what you perform)